by Diana Blessing
This story was originally titled "Heaven Scent" and published in a book by Richard L. Scott, entitled Miracles in Our Midst. The rough draft of the story was written by the mother of Danae Blessing and was submitted and selected to be a part of the book. It was an inspirational story that quickly became popular on the internet.
Although this story is not about an individual with a disability, the story certainly helps one to understand what parents go through when they find out their child may not live or may survive, but never have a normal life. It tells of the emotional turmoil of not knowing what to expect—not knowing what the future may hold for a child who may have significant physical and/or mental problems.
No one can know what parents of a child with a disability goes through when they were expecting to have a normal healthy child and find out otherwise. No one can know what obstacle individuals with disabilities must overcome, what adversities they face, and how difficult life can be. To even have an inkling of an idea, you must walk a mile in their shoes.
The basic facts of the story are true, although over the years many embellishments have been made, especially with photographs being added that had nothing to do with the original story. The story as it appears here has been verified and confirmed by Diana Blessing.
I would like to thank Diana for allowing me to share her story, for taking the time to answer questions, and for sending me a photograph of her lovely daughter, Danae, to use with the story. (George M. Graham Jr.)
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A cold March wind danced around the dead of night in Dallas as the doctor walked into the small hospital room of Diana Blessing. Still groggy from surgery, her husband, David, held her hand as they braced themselves for the latest news.
That afternoon of March 10, 1991, complications had forced Diana, only 24-weeks pregnant, to undergo an emergency cesarean section to deliver couple's new daughter, Danae Lu Blessing. At 12 inches long and weighing only one pound nine ounces, they already knew she was perilously premature.
Still, the doctor's soft words dropped like bombs. “I don't think she's going to make it,” he said, as kindly as he could. “There's only a 10-percent chance she will live through the night, and even then, if by some slim chance she does make it, her future could be a very cruel one."
Numb with disbelief, David and Diana listened as the doctor described the devastating problems Danae would likely face if she survived. She would never walk; she would never talk; she would probably be blind; and she would certainly be prone to other catastrophic conditions from cerebral palsy to complete mental retardation; and on and on.
“No! No!” was all Diana could say. She and David, with their 5-year-old son Dustin, had long dreamed of the day they would have a daughter to become a family of four. Now, within a matter of hours, that dream was slipping away.
Through the dark hours of morning as Danae held onto life by the thinnest thread, Diana slipped in and out of drugged sleep, growing more and more determined that their tiny daughter would live—and live to be a healthy, happy young girl. But David, fully awake and listening to additional dire details of their daughter’s chances of ever leaving the hospital alive, much less healthy, knew he must confront his wife with the inevitable.
David walked in and said that we need to talk about making funeral arrangements, Diana remembers. “I felt so bad for him because he was doing everything, trying to include me in what was going on, but I just wouldn’t listen, I couldn’t listen.” I said, “No, that is not going to happen, no way! I don’t care what the doctors say, Danae is not going to die! One day she will be just fine, and she will be coming home with us!"
As if willed to live by Diana’s determination, Danae clung to life hour after hour, with the help of every medical machine and marvel her miniature body could endure. But as those first days passed, a new agony set in for David and Diana.
Because Danae's underdeveloped nervous system was essentially “raw,” the lightest kiss or caress only intensified her discomfort, so they couldn't even cradle their tiny baby girl against their chests to offer the strength of their love. All they could do, as Danae struggled alone beneath the ultraviolet light in the tangle of tubes and wires, was to pray that God would stay close to their precious little girl.
There was never a moment when Danae suddenly grew stronger. But as the weeks went by, she did slowly gain an ounce of weight here and an ounce of strength there.
At last, when Danae turned two months old, her parents were able to hold her in their arms for the very first time. And two months later, though doctors continued to gently but grimly warn that her chances of surviving, much less living any kind of normal life, were next to zero, Danae went home from the hospital, just as her mother had predicted.
Five years later, when Danae was a petite but feisty young girl with glittering gray eyes and an unquenchable zest for life, she showed no signs, whatsoever, of any mental or physical impairments. Simply, she was everything a little girl can be and more.
One blistering afternoon in the summer of 1996 near her home, Danae was sitting in her mother's lap in the bleachers of a local ball park where her brother Dustin's baseball team was practicing. As always, Danae was chattering nonstop with her mother and several other adults sitting nearby, when she suddenly fell silent. Hugging her arms across her chest, little Danae asked, “Do you smell that?"
Smelling the air and detecting the approach of a thunderstorm, Diana replied, “Yes, it smells like rain.” Danae closed her eyes and again asked, “Do you smell that?"
Once again, her mother replied, “Yes, I think we're about to get wet. It smells like rain."
Danae at 16 years old. |
Still caught in the moment, Danae shook her head, patted her thin shoulders with her small hands and loudly announced, “No, it smells like Him. It smells like God when you lay your head on His chest."
Tears blurred Diana's eyes as Danae happily hopped down to play with the other children. Before the rains came, her daughter's words confirmed what Diana and all the members of the extended Blessing family had known, at least in their hearts, all along.
During those long days and nights of her first two months of her life, when her nerves were too sensitive for them to touch her, God was holding Danae on His chest and it is His loving scent that she remembers so well.
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